The H Word

My Story

I’ve sat on this one for a few weeks to be honest, but off the back of seeing our Gamer’s Tavern community come together in such a lovely and heart warming way over the last few weeks (be it looking out for each other in tough times, being super generous and gifting each other steam games from each other’s wish list for secret santa, etc) I felt compelled to reflect and write on my story as to how I ended up here- and crucially, why it couldn’t have come at a better time. I was at what could have been a pretty low point in my life.

Let’s go back a few years, to before I became a part of The Tavern. I’d been working as an A&E nurse (or Emergency Room for you overseas folk) and somewhere between end of 2021 and mid 2022, I left this job after 8 years of being there. I’d experienced a fair amount of tough, hollowing experiences in my time there, but of course the COVID era was…the final nail in the coffin to say the least. To sum it up in just a few words, I can only describe it as just a conveyor belt of bodies. Anyway, my point being- I was coming out of that job in somewhat of a shell shocked state to say the least.

I had two friends that I really counted on during these times. One of which I’d never met before, who I’d met online through the game Payday 2 mid way through my uni degree (age 21). We used to play games almost every day together (although in later years this became less frequent due to work, but none the less, at least once or twice a week we’d have a good long gaming session) and racked up hours and hours playing various coop games together- we were a great duo. We knew each other very well and shared all our highs and lows. The other, I’d known since the age of 16 where we met at an athletics club and became very, very good friends over the years. I guess you could call us “wingmen”. He would go on to be the best man at my wedding.

Fast forward back to the later years of 2022 & 2023, both of these friendships came crashing down. My online friend had been displaying small little worrying behaviours and traits over the course of a year whereby he became incredibly misogynistic and hateful towards women- which ended with him sending a full on one way incel rant to me in messages followed by completing cutting me off of any communication with him. That was that, poof. Gone- almost 12 years of close friendship down the drain with no chance to talk or discuss.

Then, after my wife and I got married and we were in the last month or so of pregnancy awaiting the arrival of our daughter, my other best mate (also having started to show a very different side to him since our wedding) did some pretty unforgivable stuff to two of my wife’s female best friends. Stuff that you don’t just talk about and forgive. Totally out of the blue and something I never thought he was capable of. I’d properly vouched for him as one of life’s nice guys who always did right by people. It hurt, to say the least.

And that was that. My two close friendships that I had sustained through my early adulthood, gone- in two very similar manners. I’d never been the kind of person that had loads and loads of friends but none of them would actually been there when it mattered- I had a small circle of friends and we all had each others back, we didn’t have to have regular meetings in order to maintain the friendship- whenever we met up, it would be as though no time had passed at all.

Also during this time, all the lived experiences of my time as a nurse came back to haunt me- like the trailing wake of a speeding boat slamming you from behind when you stop suddenly. Having “lost” two people I thought I knew so very well, vouched for them to other people and spoke so highly of them- I became very untrusting and wary of starting up friendships with other people, the intent of going on to become good friends an idea that I wrote off before even engaging. I felt as though I had too much on my plate to be able to cope with the idea of having genuinely good friendships with other people. I didn’t have the “bandwidth”, if you want to call it that, to try and start from scratch with friendships again. It almost sounds like dating, doesn’t it? It just felt as though if someone were to ask me “so, what do you do? What have you been up to?” everything that would leave my mouth after that moment would just be a verbal diarrhoea combination of: – Any or all the awful deaths and experiences I’d witnessed – Lol I spend so many of my evenings staring at the same spot on the wall in my lounge, I’m so random lol – I don’t really talk to people anymore I’m just putting one foot in front of the other – I have an amazing family and surroundings with absolutely nothing to be sad or ungrateful for but I still just feel overbearingly numb and disconnected from everything lol, what about you?

I’m doing fine, by the way. A lot has happened since those days and I’ve done a lot of work on myself. Just wanted to put that in there early as a bit of reassurance- not trying to use this as some sort of cliffhanger.

I wasn’t on social media. I became aware of the Mastodon project in the days when Elon Musk took over Twitter and in my discontent with the acquisition, I moved across to a Mastodon gaming instance. I then discovered some weirdo called Alex, who hosted a streaming channel on Twitch called “The Gamer’s Tavern” every week. I followed along, and never left. Eventually, having generated a bit of an online friendship with Alex and some other people within that same community, I became a mod alongside Jamie (known as EighthLayer at the time). Through this community, I met some people who I genuinely call friends to this day. Me and Jamie have met in person recently and been to a Linkin Park gig together, which was an odd feeling, but a good one- to meet someone for the first time but also have it feel like you’d known each other for ages and not struggle for conversation, whilst also not finding the silences uncomfortable was a feeling I’d missed, tbh. Myself & Alex & would (and still do) regularly play any mixture of games- being able to enjoy gameplay and chatting to each other about our lives is something I’d truly missed, and was a hole in a part of my life that needed filling. Same goes for Jamie and some of his own friends who have adopted me into their little friendship circle. Not only this, but we also often play as a whole group of us with others from The Tavern, too. I decided to finally go head first into an interest that had always bubbled away in the background unanswered in the form of sim racing & rallying by buying my first ever sim rig. Everyone has been hugely supportive and positive about the whole thing.

It’s nice, really, really nice.

I am of course slowly expanding my friendship circle again, having met a few through parent groups etc. But the connections I’ve made within The Gamers’ Tavern have meant so much more.

Without getting too much deeper into this, I’m trying to say that The Gamers’ Tavern community has been nothing short of amazing. Alex (who created and started the whole thing) has been absolutely awesome from the start- and as much as he will down right refuse to take any credit or have any spotlight on him, he has a big part to play in where we are right now with the Gamers’ Tavern. Recently, he has chosen to take a step back as the main figurehead of The Tavern (which we all fully understand and support), wanting to let The Gamers’ Tavern become community led and focused- which is exactly what has happened. In this past year, the community has grown even more and we’ve gained some even more absolutely wonderful people.

We round off the year seeing the back of The Gamers’ Tavern secret santa, where we all posted our Steam wish lists- under the caveat of there being zero expectation or obligation to participate. Boy oh boy, the generosity we saw has been nothing short of heart warming. Total strangers, internet strangers from all corners of the world have been gifting each other things. It’s not just materialistic either, it’s genuine- every one is interested in each other’s lives and wants to help in any way they can. We all check in with each other. We all share things with each other. It’s a safe space. We look out for each other.

I could go on and on about this, but I just want to finish off with saying this:

Cheers to The Gamers’ Tavern. You’re all awesome. And to those who haven’t visited or aren’t a part of it, you’re also awesome, and always welcome any time.

Here’s to 2026.

H

Every nurse has a constant piece of equipment that accompanies them throughout their nursing career for as long as it physically performs. For some, it’s a particular pen. For others it is a particular fob watch. Others, myself included, it is a pair of scissors. A pair of trusty scissors that you would guard with your life, this is no exaggeration. If you don’t have a pair of scissors that you swear fealty to, then you are the person that borrows said scissors from other nurses- and are vaguely threatened with something if they aren’t returned within 15 minutes of their use. They are only loaned out on the condition that we know where you are, we know where you sleep and that we will get our scissors back or else the remainder of your days in the ED be a living hell.

For a couple of years, I had a pair of plastic handled NHS supplied trauma scissors that were jagged edged, blunt ended and a little flimsy- but ultimately they got the job done, most of the time. However they sometimes fell short and required more rough and inefficient effort in certain situations where you really needed them and left you wishing you could simply carry a pair of garden secateurs around with you, were it permitted. Enter, the Leatherman Raptor scissors. Cleverly (perhaps unnecessarily) named like an ultimate dream toy that every child begs their parents for their birthday or christmas present, they were unbeatable in performance. They folded neatly and satisfyingly into a plastic holster that could be worn wherever was most suitable for you. I first spotted them in action on a paramedic when I did a day on the ambulances and watched on dreamily -like I was watching someone ridiculously attractive walking out of the sea like a James Bond shot- as these scissors effortlessly cut through the things that were thrown at it. As well as having a solidly built construction with a reliably sharp blade, they were equipped with a foldable sharp hook implement for cutting through seatbelts or varying cases of clothing/strap removal without harming flesh underneath. They also have a tiny non-sharp point of metal on the end of them for shattering tempered glass safely without sending big chucks of it flying ie, getting into a crashed car. We don’t need this in ED obviously, but it’s a cool little extra to have for bragging points. Finally, they also have a small section to the blade closest to the handles which is used for cutting wire or thick pieces of metal. Overall, a very multi purpose instrument for a variety of purposes out in the field. Perhaps a little overkill for an emergency department- but I always swore in my ED practice that it is better to have it and not need it than it is to need it and not have it.

After being unable to justify the cost of them, my dad (ever a man for a shiny toy) bought them for me as a present. I was ecstatic, and was soon wearing mine on a holster on my trousers, quietly feeling like I had a hidden superpower- my super scissors ready to whip out at a moments notice to seemingly uncuttable things. They actually come with a little bit of stigma amongst other nurses. They’re seen as a bit of a ‘boy’s toy’ and unnecessary. Semi jokingly, comments will be thrown around about them being used to ‘compensate’ for a lack of something else- however, these same people fall tellingly silent when they cry out for another pair of scissors when their NHS ones fail and are instead handed a pair like mine. They hand them back as casually as they can, struggling to contain how much they approve of them. Come on guys, admit it- you like the shiny scissors. You do, don’t you!

Several years have passed since I got these scissors, and they still they sit in front of me, ready to go. I look at them sat on my desk in their holster with silent pride as I realise that they have been one constant at my side on the frontline throughout my nursing career. They’ve endured all the traumatic situations I’ve faced, as well as the light hearted, every day encounters.

Bandages. Thousands, upon thousands of thankless tangled and bloodstained dressings.

Clothes. Denim, khaki, leather belts, pants, clean or soiled.

Bra’s. Sadly not a reflection of my sexual escapades. As you may well know, bra’s usually have a metal wire in them- and this same metal wire is the arch enemy of the NHS scissors but no match for the inestimable leathermans and their wielder. I should note, we aren’t going round briskly cutting off people’s bra’s without a moments notice. In a cardiac arrest or a rapidly deteriorating patient where there is no time to dilly dally as we need quick access to their chest, everything must come off. You do not have time to piss about trying to sit them up removing clothes over their head and fiddling with that bastard stubborn metal bra clip at the back.

A Budweiser bottle. Nestled inside the inner chest pocket of a stabbed patient who had been thrown out the back of a car at our doors. I recoiled in terror as for a split second I was petrified that I was somehow impossibly cutting through the ribs of the patient- also not an entirely impossible sensation, as you’ll discover later in this book.

A rolled up bundle of twenty pound notes. Again, pockets of a trauma patient. I didn’t count how much was there, but it went clean through the bundle. The patient was a drug dealer. I chalk that down as one of my small parts in the war on drugs. Me and the leatherman scissors: saving the public from crappy bandages by day, ridding the streets of dirty money by night.

Countless plaster casts. Plaster of Paris, that is. Often we’ll put on temporary plaster casts for a patient with a severe fracture- usually when the fracture has been displaced or dislocated, meaning we have to manipulate it back into a normal position and then plaster cast it to keep it in place. We then do a follow up X-ray to check it is in the right place. If it isn’t, you cut it off and reapply accordingly.

Metal wire, ie barbed wire or fencing wire. The big brother of bra wire. The scissors have a wire cutting section on them that has you feeling like you’re doing a bomb defusal, deftly and effortlessly snipping away at the wire liberating the entangled patient. Usually farmers or cyclists.

A makeshift noose made of bandages. As I knocked on the door of a toilet where a patient of mine had gone in, I heard a gargling/choking noise from within and peered through the crack of the door- to be met by the sight of a dangling, kicking patient flinging around. Wrenching the handle down as I barged the stiff and ill fitting door open with my shoulder while shouting for help, in one swift swipe I snipped the bandages and lowered the patient to the floor as safely as I could (trying to catch a rag dolling human being is not an elegant process, it’s a “just do what you can” situation). I almost felt like there was smoke coming off the end of the scissors as I slowly holstered them again, like a Wild West movie.

Cutouts of children’s card masks, sections of colouring books. As I sat cross legged on the floor of a cubicle with a feverish, grouchy and crying toddler, I snipped out the outline of a Spiderman mask remarking at how overkill these scissors must look- but hey, the children are laughing while I pose with my ridiculous tellytubby/spiderman/paw patrol paper mask and make the accompanying stupid noises. The pure belly giggles of the child providing welcome relief to all from the previous pained screeching of pain and discomfort from whatever illness or injury they had.

Sternums. Several sternums. Yes, the bit of bone in the centre of your chest. During a thoracotomy, part of the procedure involves cutting across the chest in order to access your heart to provide cardiac massage and address any internal wounds- a barrier to which is the sternum which is usually sawed through using a piece of serrated wire that you hold either end of in your hand, pulling alternatingly back and forth to cut through it. Or, if you have a good, strong and sharp pair of scissors, you can just snip through.

Many wedding rings. When your finger/hand are swelling for whatever the reason is at the time, you simply MUST remove the wedding ring else you run the risk of cutting the circulation off to the finger entirely, which would eventually lead to the finger going necrotic/needing to be amputated. You can start with simple wriggling, soap, water, whatever method you can of non destructive removal- but if all else has failed with trying to remove the ring, they need to be cut off. The wire cutting section of the leathermans serves this purpose perfectly, depending on the size and thickness of the ring.

My trusty scissors, that never let me down. They are an inanimate object and are not sentient, I know this- but with them I share some of the most traumatic and meaningful memories and events of my nursing career. They are a relic of it, if you will. If ever there were to be a trophy of my time in the ED, it would be these. Their now battle worn bladed edge blunted slightly by the countless sternums, wires and metal clothes fasteners be it poppers or zips. Their stains of bleaching from whenever they were washed of whatever bodily fluids they cut through, now rusting slightly. I sometimes think about framing them, knowing that no one else would ever get it- they’re just a pair of overly fancy, overly complicated and unnecessary scissors. But they were my fancy, overcomplicated and unnecessary scissors. Leatherman Raptors

H

James was one of our security guards, who’d worked here probably since before any of us had been born. You’d only need to look at him to know that he’d been here longer than you had. He was about 6ft 2, in his 60’s and walked with a hunch and a notable limp. He could probably touch his toes without bending down. He was still a unit of a bloke. That said, he was still one of the nicest guys you could talk to. He’d always say hello and ask how you were doing: ”awright, ‘ow ya doin’?” as he lumbered past you down the corridor, responding to someone up to no good. He spoke a bit like Phil Mitchell from Eastenders (in his earlier days, when he wasn’t an alcoholic)– he was almost identical actually. He’d seen enough in the department that he knew just how to handle certain people. He knew when enough was enough and that the person being aggressive and violent to staff needed a firm attitude to just pack it in. Conversely, he knew when someone was in a vulnerable position having a mental health crisis and would spend hours with them calming them down and reassuring them that they were in the best place to get help. He was truly an asset to the team, not just a heavy pair of hands.

I fondly remember many an encounter with him. Whether that’s him hanging onto the feet of an acutely aggressive and violent patient (either by drugs or brain injury, we weren’t sure at that time) while we prepared to sedate them, and he’d still crack a smile at me with his “nice weather today innit H??” as he clung onto what seemed like a Tasmanian Devil.

One such encounter with James involved a woman who had taken some horrendous unknown concoction of drugs, and was on the back of the ambulance going absolutely berserk- assaulting the paramedics, trashing the ambulance and shouting and roaring incoherently. You could see the ambulance rocking sideways as you stood outside of it. We scrambled to prepare our special room for her- a closed off cubicle with 1 way opening doors, roll down shutters (so medical equipment attached to the wall couldn’t be damaged) and padded walls. Whilst this was going on, police were desperately being called in order to assist with what was going to be fairly advanced/complex restraint as we brought her inside. All of the security guards were very reluctant and spent a lot of time just planning how to get her out. James had come on shift and hobbled over to the cacophony.

“Awright. Oi, what’s goin’ on ‘ere?’ He said, gesturing to the swaying ambulance.

The young and somewhat impressionable security guards hastily tried to explain what was going on.

“Oh forkin’ ‘ell.” He mumbled to himself, disappointed that the others hadn’t dealt with it. He went to the ambulance doors and flung them open, to which the crazed woman directed her cacophony of roaring and shouting at him instead of the paramedics. He lumbered up the step, grabbed her by the scruff of her hoodie as she clawed at him, and hauled her back out of the ambulance with her at arms length, and shuffled down the corridor with her like a feral cat in his hands scratching at his arms and yelling incoherently.

“which room?” he grumbled to me, unfazed. I figured that he’s had years of this that by now he’d probably formed a natural thick callus of skin on his arms, as the woman’s scratches and pulls did nothing.

“Room 10 mate, all good to go. Need a hand….?” I replied emptily, knowing he wouldn’t.

“Cheers H” he said, and booted the doors open with a free leg.

“Gerroff’ me arm...forkin’…gerrof’, there y’are, gerrin, get…in’” he grumped, shaking his arms trying to release the woman as though he was trying to shake a bit of sticky tape off. She soon released and James shut the doors, turned around and slowly lowered himself laboriously onto the chair that had been left outside the room. I half pictured him picking up a TV remote to turn on the football, he’d sat down that casually.

I mean, not the most conventional or recommended methods of getting someone like that in, but it worked and he wasn’t bothered what she spat or scratched at him. Before he’d arrived, we were clearly at a stalemate. Waiting for police, waiting for security, waiting for a room, waiting for her to calm down, waiting for it to be safe. No decisions being made. She was trashing the ambulance (which would have taken it off the road for repair), assaulting the ambulance crew and anyone that came near, and police were too busy to be able to respond within any reasonable timeframe- she was a danger not only to herself but also members of the public and staff. He saw what needed doing, and just did it. Thank god for James.

Another time, I remember seeing a patient (we’ll call him Michael) who was coming down off a cocaine high, he too had been violent and aggressive, consistently rude and racist to staff, always swearing and gobbing off, but had since calmed down and was more just being a general twat, rude, racist and swaggering about with a smug and entitled face (Ok I’ll say it, it …was one of those very punchable faces). Not that punching it would have made any difference- he only had 3 teeth left. If he hadn’t have taken a shit ton of cocaine, he’d have long since been booted out. If we were to discharge him, against his wishes, with adverse observations as he did and then he went and collapsed and had a heart attack in the street that would very much go against us.

So, we were transferring this guy to a ward. I had to take him, so that I could hand him over to the relevant people. James came on escort, as is usual with these cases. Of course, Michael was loving this. He got to look like he was well ‘ard, that he needed to be held back by security- his yellow 3 toothed smile brimming as he strode through the corridors of A&E with me and James. All of a sudden, something triggered him and he flew off the handle at me immediately in the middle of the corridor.

“You sayin’ I’ve got shitty teeth?! What you saying?! You saying I’ve got shitty teeth! You fucking want a fight do you mate I’ll do you one right here mate fucking come on I’ll do you one mate I’ll do you!!!” He yelled, flailing his arms about and launching himself towards me unsuccessfully as James just stood in between us both, disapprovingly- a bit like a big dog with a puppy gnawing at it’s jowls. I stood and waited for him to finish, as if I were waiting for a toddler to finish his tantrum.

A stray limp thwack landed on James’ head. Line, crossed. He had had enough. He grabbed Michael by the scruff of his collar with both hands and held him up to the wall.

“LISTEN mate if you carry on kicking off in ‘ere, I’ll make sure you’ve got NO fookin’ teeth, AWRIGHT?!” He barked calmly at him in his usual gruff voice.

Michael put his 3 teeth away and his attitude withered, as he plodded up the corridor with us, tail in between his legs, and James looking irritated that he’d had to exert himself beyond a simple walk.

Again, unconventional and not really the recommended response, but it worked. What was the alternative? Let him escalate in the middle of A&E and need more security guards to come and pin him down until he calmed down? Talk him down and reassure him that of course he didn’t have shitty teeth? (We knew already he wouldn’t be talked down, he’d been spoiling for fight the whole time he’d been here)

The other side of James, I recall fondly that I witnessed in passing. A mental health patient had been brought in, going through a psychotic episode, and was at the point where she sat on the floor in the foetal position absolutely terrified of her surroundings and instinctively hit out at anyone that came close. James, all 6ft heft of him, sat crossed legged beside her on the floor with her for at least an hour before the mental health team came to take over- reassuring her and calming her down and telling her that she was in a safe place, no one was going to hurt her, he wasn’t going to let anyone hurt her. She’d stopped screaming and was no longer lashing out, and was cradling a cup of tea (normally in these cases we’ll offer water, as the contents usually get thrown over the nearest person. Clearly James had put her needs over his own.) She still didn’t want to engage with anyone, but she at least felt safe. That was James’ doing.

He’s alright, James is. Rough round the edges, doesn’t play by the book and won’t take any shit- but rugged, dependable and always looking out for the other person first. Yes, he’s a bit knackered and about ready to retire, but he’s alright. For now though, he’s still lumbering about the corridors, gruffly greeting everyone with his trademark pearly whites still, putting society’s arseholes to rights, and protecting those that need him.

H

Kindness, Patience, Mental Health & Content Warnings on the Fediverse

CONTENT WARNING: mental health struggles, me talking about elements of my newly unearthed PTSD, reference to witnessing suicide attempts

I'm just going to get straight to the point here. I'm starting up writing again. I have a lot of thoughts that sometimes I feel like writing into the ether. What better place than primarily, the Fediverse?

You've probably seen from the content warning already, but yes- I'm going to cover some stuff here. I promise I'm not going for the shock factor and to make you feel shitty, I'm genuinely just sharing- and because I want to join in with this modern day trend of actually fucking talking about our feelings and experiences for the benefit of looking out for one another.

Some background here before I get into it for those who don't know me: I spent 8 years as a senior nurse in a busy, overcrowded and understaffed inner city Accident & Emergency Department.

Recently, I had what you could probably call a “relapse”. Or a “trigger” if you will. There's this scene in the TV series Handmaid's Tale (no spoiler, promise) where someone is hanged. As I watched it happening, I felt an intense panic building up inside me, willing it to stop. “No turn it off, stop it, turn it off” I repeated, over and over until my scrambling and trembling hand found the remote to turn off the TV completely.

Hangings, while of course distressing even in fictional situations, wouldn't have usually affected me so much, as in- I was somewhat sadly using to dealing with them, whether that was dealing with the after effects of them or worse in this case, having immediate flashbacks of finding a patient in a cubicle hanging, still alive and with both of their wrists slashed. In the moment of scrambling to grab the remote control, I was at the same time reliving slashing at the makeshift bandage noose with my scissors as I tried to hold the patient up over my shoulders.

Actually, it’s only in writing this post that I’m reminded of another time I had an unexpected “trigger” flashback- which my brain had again conveniently forgotten. The TV series Stranger Things, (again, no spoilers coming up don’t worry) I was having a riot binge watching this with my other half. Totally fictional, out of this world stuff that is easy to disconnect from. All of a sudden, there’s a scene where there’s a baby crib on fire, and it is alluded that the baby is in there still. The scene only lasted all of 5 seconds, but it was enough to send me into a shaking panic and repeatedly urging for the TV to be turned off. I don’t need to detail what the flashback was.

How can TV series and Movies do a better job of warning people beyond “some scenes some viewers may find distressing”? Maybe that’s one for another day.

Since the most recent one, I've been coming to the realisation that I am no longer the same person that I used to be. Quite some time has passed since I last stepped foot off an A&E department and yes, as I am often asked, I miss it. A lot. So why did I leave? Maybe that is best left to another blog post some time, or perhaps, more pressingly, my book that I’m currently working on that spans a whole host of my career. Let me know if you’re ever interested.

Well, I miss the job- just not the situation we were in. That is, increasingly understaffed, underfunded and hideously overcrowded. I lost count of the amount of times I was dealing with a cardiac arrest in the middle of a waiting room or corridor, with no physical bed space anywhere at that moment in time to take said person- we just had to work on them on the floor while some poor bugger was kicked out into a temporary corridor space so we could use their bay full of life saving equipment.

Back to the point of this post- the scene that I saw that I did not expect to affect me the way it did. As a general rule, seeing things like that in perhaps, a game, or as a photo- doesn’t seem to have the same effect. The fact is, the scene in question seemed to so closely resemble what I experience for real that it literally was as simple as a trigger. The last time I felt something close to a trigger was a few years ago when I was in a crowded shop, and felt in increasing sense of panic as I felt as though any of of the people swarming around me was going to suddenly run up and thrust a floppy and unconscious child into my arms.

I should point out, I’m working through this. I’m doing ok. I know the people that will be reading this are most likely the kind of people who’d reach out and ask if I’m ok. Honestly, I’m obviously not fine, but I’ve got it in hand and am working through it. If anything, I’m coming to learn that this experience is actually somewhat humanising- that I’m now starting to lose that numbing, desensitising protective factor that my brain perhaps filtered everything I saw with- and actually for the most part has made me forget a lot of what I’ve seen, until that totally unexpected trigger happens.

Which leads me on to Content Warnings on the Fediverse. I used to find them a bit over the top, and feeling as though it felt like treading on eggshells whenever you posted. I still to some extent think content warnings have been over used, likely as a result of people on fedi over policing other people’s posts and creating a bit of a hostile and unwelcoming environment- however: I land on the side of the idea that it costs literally fuck all to be kind, and respectful. Content Warnings are NOT censoring, as some might shout until they’re blue in the face. It’s just a way of going “ey, just a heads up there’s probably some shit behind this you might not like, you sure?”. And that’s it. What’s the harm in that?

I for one, am learning to respect this way of thinking. It never came from a place of malice, but because I became so used to seeing a certain degree of grim things day in day out, I almost forgot that the majority of people are fortunate enough to have not experienced those things and that they may find them actually quite distressing. How do I know this? Well, because still, every once in a while, I become that person. That person I was before I set foot into the underworld of emergency nursing. That vulnerable, emotional, wearing my heart on my sleeve person. The one that didn’t find a fictional depiction of something on TV too close to home that I couldn’t function properly.

I’m not sure if I’ll ever become that person again.

Perhaps, one day, it’d be nice.

Look after each other, peeps. X

H